I can’t completely put myself in their boat because I did meet my husband while attending a “Mormon college”, and married him six months later. I want them to be proud of who they are, and proud to be brown.

I didn’t know it then, but I was an I hope as my children grow up they meet other children who are taught to have friends of all races, and date people of all nationalities. Most of all, I hope others around us are accepting and open minded enough to see people for more than just the color of their skin.

I also have observed more and more mixed-race children (two or three or four racial) in recent years.

Many parents there are dealing with issues and concerns similar to the important ones you raised. Ultimately, if you give your children a firm concept of who they are, I think they’ll do alright! I agree with you, that race should be a complete NON issue… Our generation seems open to many things that most of our parent’s and grandparent’s generations are completely closed off to. That’s the way they were raised, in segregated schools. Like you said some black people leave because no one would date them & some peoples family teach that you must stick to your own race.

Best of everything to you and your family,~Deesha My brother in law is black. So, it makes sense that interracial couples are out of the norm for them. I think you and your husband are beautiful together. Before you & your husband decide to have kids you should pick a place to live that is very diverse and accepting to interracial families.

I outside of your race is “not recommended.” No lie, it’s in the manual of the “LDS Marriage and Family Class.” (I think we should all ban together to get that taken out but that’s another story.) I know people who have been so upset about this they’ve doubted, even left the church. Not only would that be hypocritical, in my opinion that would be I worry especially that my daughters will face the same challenges I faced growing up, but won’t deal with it as I did.

Obviously my husband and I didn’t care about that lesson because we’re married today. I was able to brush it off my shoulder while other Black women hold a grudge, or get very upset. I don’t want my children to grow up wishing they looked “more like daddy” or like their white friends.

Local culture is going to have an impact, but I think that nothing can ever be as big as what kids learn at home.

I would like to believe that with each passing generation we are becoming more comfortable with each other, but I know in some areas that’s more true than others.

I have a very white family–scandinavian and german ancestors on both sides.

We’ve got more blue eyes than any other extended family I know, LOL!

), my cousin who had a nice talk with him about how she is brown, and our home teacher (the darkest man I’ve ever met) who let DS just look at his hand for most of an hour while we met together.

I think that openness and lack of discomfort on our part (as parents) is the main reason that he is also comfortable about racial differences.

I remember teaching my oldest son about how everyone is different–I have a different hair color than he does, his aunt has a different eye color, and my cousin has a different skin color.